In “Gone For Good,” you talk about the “fatal flaw in the logic of love.” What is that flaw?
“I guess I felt that there were too many things that love relied on, or that love required—one of them is physical attraction. I think I was just going through a period where I had this girlfriend who… Whether it’s true or not, I felt that she was attracted to me for the wrong reasons. I was just having issues with this girl, and the thing that I really wanted from her was this pure, sort of regular love. And she was this person who had been through all kinds of shit emotionally, and I felt like she liked me because of the band and stuff. If somebody loved you for your money, it would give you the same feeling. Then it put me in this state where I just kept thinking about the nature of attraction and of love, and just how basically unfair it is; just how much it relies on the physical side. And that’s such an important part of it, and it’s something that I love about it, but in that situation, I just felt like it was artificial or something. So that fatal flaw in the logic of love would be that love is essentially a selfish act sometimes—it’s something you take from someone, or you seek out because of this very instinctual animal side, the lust side of things. Therefore it’s inherently unfair. I mean, there are people who won’t be considered attractive, and they’ll be left behind. We have this thing where we think that there’s something universal and true about love, that somehow it’s what’s inside that counts, when in reality, to a certain extent, that’s just not true. It’s not actually what counts the most, and that’s the fatal flaw. It’s a really cynical look at it.”
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never really gave this song a good listen, then bf winds up back in california and plays it in the car. its much better than i remember. i really miss my car in NY with a bratty intensity.
(Source: The A.V. Club)